Fast Car

“You got a fast car. . .Maybe we can make a deal. . . “  On Wednesday night at 9:30 p.m., I was pulling out jumper cables, trash, spare change, and my daughters’ car seats from my old SUV and hastily stuffing everything into my new metallic white 2024 Ford...

Listening, Not Listening

What gets in the way of my ability to be a good listener?  I am taking another go at this timeless question.  I am relating to this question as an exploration, an inquiry,  a wondering, an opportunity to confess, or complete not listening, an opportunity to get to...

Confronting Whiteness

In the Confronting Whiteness course, our facilitator played a video of “What’s Going On” by Marvin Gaye released in 1971.  I don’t think I fully understood the meaning of the song until she played it. If nothing else, I completely heard it in a new way. Here we are 52...

The Facts of Life

I think I know the difference: Facts are what happens, and interpretations are the meanings I give to what happens. Except interpretations are not the meanings I give to what happens. The meanings simply arise. They exist automatically, with no effort—or...

Claiming Our Power

Storm. From light to dark in a second. Thunder but no rain. I wonder if this is what it sounds like in Kyiv—except my only worry is if the power goes out and kills my a/c.  So no, people in Ukraine probably have a different occurring. Our questions might be similar,...
My Family, Too

My Family, Too

I woke up all last week in Tennessee, and somewhere along the way I woke up to the fact that I am part of a new family. That’s my miracle this week, realizing that I am a Kramer, in addition to being a McVadon which I’ve known all my life. What I didn’t know was what...