The Facts of Life

I think I know the difference: Facts are what happens, and interpretations are the meanings I give to what happens. Except interpretations are not the meanings I give to what happens. The meanings simply arise. They exist automatically, with no effort—or...
Wrong Question

Wrong Question

First you have to understand that I am committed to Melinda’s wellbeing. I have declared it, and after her series of falls and injuries especially, I am committed to protecting her, which means being vigilant for when she is walking and not looking and talking on the...
The Discipline of Reflection

The Discipline of Reflection

Creating practices has been an integral part of my Dorrier Underwood training and I include them in my coaching with clients. What I’ve gotten clearer about over the last year is how a practice can interrupt “my drift”, that which reliably keeps me small, and has the...
Get Over Yourself

Get Over Yourself

I had a zoom meeting today, and logged in 10 minutes early so I’d be ready to roll when the other person joined. Three minutes after the start time, I realized that the person was in the waiting room, and had been waiting for me to admit them into the meeting. Doh!...
Give Me a Break!

Give Me a Break!

At Dorrier Underwood, one of our leadership practices is to take a phrase from a novel or poem, use it as a first line, and write flat out for 5 minutes, without pausing or editing. It’s a way of discovering what we have to say to ourselves, and we often read what...